posted by alphanerd at 10:41 AM on December 2, 2012 [3 favorites] I can see his position. Is it that wrong to care about my significant other? Do what you reasonably can, then accept you can’t let her bad decisions about herself ruin your life. Is it Fair to Dump Someone That Has Herpes… Someone makes an uncool herpes joke and I just say, ‘Well, I have herpes, it’s no big deal. It was worth it to me because I loved him, and herpes has been nothing more than a skin irritation now and then. Outbreaks generally last a week to 10 days but may be recurrent, brought about through factors such as sun exposure and stress.

2) Ask your potential partners to get a type-specific herpes blood test so that they know whether or not they have HSV-1 and/or HSV-2. People go into a marriage recognizing that their partner has the potential for developing diseases and conditions. We are both perplexed by how fast this one came up for him. Please follow our community rules when engaging in comment discussion on this site. If ok, want to jump on my soapbox for a second, if anyone reading this has herpes, do the right thing, let people know. The herpes have been a problem for me and my partner for long. You MUST ask for the blood test or you will NOT get it and then you will NOT find out that you are positive until you have an outbreak.

Anyways he told me he didnt tell me because he was told by a doctor when he was in prison that hepatitis C was so rare to catch through sexual contact that they’ve never actually had any just sexual cases recorded that most where from tattoos or needles, drug needles mostly ( that is how he caught it). My partner has HSV 1 on her genitals, I have had cold sores as a child, does this prevent me from contracting HSV 1 on my genitals? I’m not sure if I got herpes from him as he has never had any symptoms. Perhaps I should just have just taken the good news and rolled with it, but I had done enough research to know there were factors she may not be accounting for. Yes, if he takes suppressive therapy, you will decrease the chances by 50-80, some studies say. I guess my question is: Is it absurd that I want to stay with him? My boyfriend had trinna have given it to me but he swears he didnt he even went to go get checked he and I’ve been reading about it and the diffrent ways to get it.

It was not typed the test results just said hsv detected. As they lay together afterwards, he told her he had herpes. 07 chance of a female catching herpes from a male after 52 sex acts (say after a year of having sex once a week on average) , while a male would have a 1. When a partner has herpes, there is additional risk that you could get it, too. L-lysine, as I mention in the article, hasn’t been proven effective in treating cold sores at all. My boyfriend just confessed he has herpes and we want to get married and have a baby. So I both kissed and was given oral sex by my bf who has told me that he sometimes gets coldsores, but was asymptomatic at the time (yes, I get that you can still be contagious-don’t jump all over that).

If your partner gets cold sores (oral herpes) , he or she should not perform oral sex on you during this time. I’m torn. And before I found out about my little gem, I would immediately think, not in my backyard. They are used extensively in sprinting, playing football, and any sport which requires fast changes in direction. Your tests came back positive for genital herpes, my doctor said to me. Knowledge is the only thing that will help your mind. I did internet research and discovered that regular use of condoms and daily use of suppressive anti-viral drugs by him would greatly reduce the risk of transmission.

What is genital herpes?. Other names for a cold sore are fever blister, oral herpes, labial herpes, herpes labialis, and herpes febrilis. My boyfriend had cold sore when he was a kid, but he has not have cold sore for more than 15 years, even when I have mine; which made me jealous. I am so scared because I dont know how long have a had thismy kids drink from me, etc I am scared to consider starting any relationships now. So if you have HSV-1 then you can spread it through any type of sexual contact where the mouth comes into contact with the genitals (and sometimes the buttocks and legs as well).